so, we dont play the secret surprise shower game in my family because, um, DUH...
therefore, i know my sister is in the throes of shower-planning. up until now its been brunch with the ladies - typical and very me, given my penchant for brunch... however, yesterday she said something that sounded like the BEST.BRIDAL.SHOWER.EVER!
on the actual beach.
now i'm picturing sundresses, barbecue & coronas.
and OH MY GOD, that would be the best bridal shower ever invented. ever.
Thursday, April 29, 2010
Tuesday, April 20, 2010
the worst part about weddings...
...is that everyone complains about everything.
as a people pleaser, this is hard for me. very hard.
also hard for me is to ask people to do things for me, so imagine how much i hate having bridesmaids.
first i have to guide them towards dresses. which is a no-win. If you pick one dress, they will invariably all hate it. if you tell them they have free reign, they have to search high and low and waste tons of time. I chose middle of the road - directed them to david's bridal and a specific color and length... but even that is hard - they still have to take time out to go and try on dresses!
and then the shower... they have to throw me a party. oh, how fun for them! oh wait, its not. i feel horribly that people are spending time on this thing and that its surely causing them some level of stress as its just one.more.thing...
I petitioned my future husband to nix the whole bridal party thing but as a boy who dreamed about his wedding as a child (yeah, role reversal in a serious way here...) the idea of not having his friends all there with him was hard... and it did occur to me that the entire responsibility of the shower would fall on my sister's shoulders if i didnt have a bridal party - so, torture one person more or 4 people less? though, really, maybe my sister is more tortured by having to work with & around other people... i dont know - does it help? does it hurt? who knows...
this all is way harder on me than trying to stay on budget in manhattan could ever be.
as a people pleaser, this is hard for me. very hard.
also hard for me is to ask people to do things for me, so imagine how much i hate having bridesmaids.
first i have to guide them towards dresses. which is a no-win. If you pick one dress, they will invariably all hate it. if you tell them they have free reign, they have to search high and low and waste tons of time. I chose middle of the road - directed them to david's bridal and a specific color and length... but even that is hard - they still have to take time out to go and try on dresses!
and then the shower... they have to throw me a party. oh, how fun for them! oh wait, its not. i feel horribly that people are spending time on this thing and that its surely causing them some level of stress as its just one.more.thing...
I petitioned my future husband to nix the whole bridal party thing but as a boy who dreamed about his wedding as a child (yeah, role reversal in a serious way here...) the idea of not having his friends all there with him was hard... and it did occur to me that the entire responsibility of the shower would fall on my sister's shoulders if i didnt have a bridal party - so, torture one person more or 4 people less? though, really, maybe my sister is more tortured by having to work with & around other people... i dont know - does it help? does it hurt? who knows...
this all is way harder on me than trying to stay on budget in manhattan could ever be.
Thursday, April 15, 2010
with 1 day to spare!
the dress has been ordered.
by the way, what everyone says is true - its 100% exactly the opposite of what i said i wanted. In fact, there were 3 criteria that i said i wouldnt even consider in a dress.
this dress fits all 3.
very odd but i'm proud of myself for being so flexible! ha!
by the way, what everyone says is true - its 100% exactly the opposite of what i said i wanted. In fact, there were 3 criteria that i said i wouldnt even consider in a dress.
this dress fits all 3.
very odd but i'm proud of myself for being so flexible! ha!
Thursday, April 1, 2010
dress, shmress
"order your dress with at least 6 months to go..."
whatever. i have 6 months and 15 days which means i should be worried. instead, i've been busy buying containers for the candy buffet, plates for the dessert spread and SHOES. ceremony shoes have been ordered. the fact that i dont have a dress is totally secondary, right? i mean, my shoes are BLUE so its not like they have to match.
oh, except that i said blue shoes for diamond white and green shoes for ivory.
oops.
oh well.
whatever. i have 6 months and 15 days which means i should be worried. instead, i've been busy buying containers for the candy buffet, plates for the dessert spread and SHOES. ceremony shoes have been ordered. the fact that i dont have a dress is totally secondary, right? i mean, my shoes are BLUE so its not like they have to match.
oh, except that i said blue shoes for diamond white and green shoes for ivory.
oops.
oh well.
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