the dress, the dress...

yesterday was day 1 of dress shopping... i'd been dreading dress shopping like i cant even explain... but in the end, 90% of it was kinda awesome...

and while i cant give too much away because J knows about this blog, i'll just say this... i certainly have different taste than 97% of the brides out there... which is good and bad. bad because there is a limited number of things that i like. good because there is a limited number of things that i like... its like being a vegetarian - sometimes you want more options, but other times, you just want one or two, because it makes decision-making that much easier...

the funny part was that the girl in the dressing room (1st store - david's) next to mine had pretty much the exact same taste as i did... we tried on at least 2 if not more, of the same dresses... it was nice to not be the only one who didnt want strapless, beaded and poufy! and i loved her when someone mentioned wearing spanx and she was like, 'no, i'm NOT wearing spanx. i want to eat, dance and have fun - i look fine!' i wanted to kiss her for that!!! (she doesnt need them anyway!)

store commentary -
i know david's is like, the place you are supposed to NOT want to go. i know it has a reputation and all of that. but you know, i went there and i went to one other shop and i HATED the other place. HATED! had it been the one we'd gone to first, i never would have put another wedding dress on ever again. it was the awful experience i'd been expecting - thank god we'd been to david's first - where i'd found 4 dresses that i liked and had the opposite of an awful experience!

turn off the internet...

i'll fully admit - i'm a hypocrite... but the fact is, i've become one of those girls... you know, the wedding-obsessed ones.

(though i still dont want a dress...)

however, i think i may have just been cured... with Indiebride being down (this happens - A LOT) and me needing my wedding messageboard fix, i hopped on over to weddingbee... where i read the following statement:

we are 'lovey dovey cuddle bunnies'

i'm fairly sure that i just threw up a little bit in my mouth.

its not a slam

so like, theoretically, every wedding is different. at least everyone HOPES that their wedding is different...

so why is it that people seem to take my desire to have a less-traditional wedding as a personal slam on their more traditional weddings? i have nothing against formal weddings. i have nothing against backyard weddings. i have nothing against vegas weddings. i have nothing against beach weddings. i dont care if you are getting married in a church, synogogue or out on a pier. i dont care if you want to spend all of your $ on flowers or half of your budget on your dress. (i do find total excess & showy-ness a bit off-putting, but aside from that, try very hard to not criticize other's priorities) if you want fashion pictures, go for it. if you want friends to take the pictures, well, do that too. i dont care.

i just choose to do something different.

why is that so horrible?

appropriate or not?

I'd like to use this as part of our wedding - i suggested the cover of our programs, J says not appropriate.

so where? because i know it may seem almost a bit cynical and jaded, but i think it so perfectly describes relationships and is something i've said, not in so many words, many times over...

its officially a party

When we set out to do this thing, i decided that there were exactly 3 things that were 100% more necessary to having this party. and those were the 3 things i was going to spend the most time (not to mention $) on, and we were going to move early, because we didnt want to miss out on our first choices...

we now officially have a date - 10.16.10 with all of the necessary ingredients... a venue - landmark on the park, a caterer - real food catering and a dj - dj Gaza...

Given that there is a liquor store around the corner from the venue and anyone can get ordaned over the internet these days, i believe this means that we have all of the necessary ingredients for our wedding.

and now, finally, i can sit back and relax a little...

except i wont - now i'll obsess over details. like the dessert table. i want that dessert table to be here NOW. and the cheese spread - i want to pick the paired wine NOW. and the specialty cocktails - wait, that one is good. we actually HAVE TO DRINK COPIUS AMOUNTS of fall cocktails because the only time you can make that decision is during the fall, right???

1 down, a million to go.

Its official - we have a DJ... he's already received our signed contract and check (gotta love NYC mail)

Have the venue contract in hand... that's going to be a tiny bit scarier to sign only because this venue really does dictate the vibe of the wedding... there's going to be no chance of casualing it down at this location (- an idea that passes through my mind on a semi-regular basis)... and with a few thousand non-refundable $s down, its pretty much a lock...

so i guess this is really happening, huh?

signed, sealed but not yet delivered...

DJ... CHECK!

Venue... CHECK!

the DJ contract & deposit are in the envelope, ready to be dropped off at lunchtime. we have an appointment to sign the venue contract next Tuesday. WOO!

still have to decide on those caterers... sigh. i'm really going to hate the part where we have to 'turn people down'. I've told J that he has to handle that - we'll see if he remembers ;)

10.16.10

we FINALLY have enough information to lock in the date :)

We'll sign the venue either later this week or early next week and we'll be booking the DJ this weekend :)

YAY!

then we just have the task of choosing between the 5 caterers... oops.