frustration

J and i have a VERY cohesive idea of the party we'd like to have. and to us, it seems pretty straight-forward... one big-ass cocktail party. mingling, chatting, sitting, lounging, dancing, whatever. passed champagne. a kick-ass cheese display (we are nothing if not cheese people). signature cocktails. so many passed bite-sized pieces that you want to burst at the end (and did i mention foodies?). a fully stocked bar (and oh yeah, drinkers). we want to end it with some lovely wedding cake plus some meaningful desserts - we want to make some, we want some from my childhood & some from J's childhood. plus, maybe a kick-ass candy display to rival the cheese display that began the night. (and this might even double as favors. 2 for 1 bonus!)

this is my kind of party... which leaves me wondering why the hell none of the caterers we talk to seem to 'get it'... no one has come back to us and said that it wont work because of X, so we assume it would but what they've all done is just give us something that isnt what we've asked for...

is this actually hard? or difficult to comprehend? forget your ideas of what a wedding is supposed to look like and just look at the list - isnt this the kind of party that you'd like to attend? nothing stiff or formal - just one big laid-back party thrown in a beautiful location with fancy clothes and fantastic food.

is it not new york enough for them? is it not wedding enough for them? well forget all that and lets have a freaking party already...